Your love is imperfect

The best you can offer is an imperfect love.

Human love is imperfect. The love of a mother, the love of a friend, and the love of a spouse are all imperfect. We all keep searching for love and we promise to love but the best we can offer is an imperfect love of different shades and degrees. Yet, we appreciate it for our world needs all the love we can get. Do not withhold it because someone somewhere is seeking for the simplest expression of love. Can we work on it?

Our love is imperfect because it is mixed with fear. We are constantly afraid of what that child may get himself into. We are always worried about our spouses being unfaithful to their promises. We worry over everything and have difficulties trusting anyone because there is always that probability of being disappointed. We put hedges, we create alternative options, we pay for insurance all because we know too well that the best we as individuals can offer another is an imperfect love. “Perfect love casts out fear” 1.

Who is that individual without fear? Perhaps a child. The heart of a child loves without a trace of fear, it is colour blind, sees every human as equal, and trusts readily until it is taught to fear. We teach our children to fear to keep them safe. Life teach them to fear through mistakes and the things they suffer. We teach our children to stratify the society we live in, we make them realize that we are not all equal. We teach them to be safe and in doing that, we taint their love with fear.

We are all full of fear by the time we become adults. We fight our fears, we face our fears, and struggle more with the fears within than the realities on the outside. Many are driven by their fears while others are inhibited by them. Several have become emotional wrecks through fear and some have been enslaved by them. Yet, perfect love casts out fear.

The deeper the level of fear manifested in your relationships, the greater the imperfection in the love. Either the love you give or the one you receive. Stop the struggle because no matter how much you seek for it, there is no perfect human love except in a child. No matter how much you promise to give it, the best you can offer is an imperfect love. You rest begins by acknowledging that yours is an imperfect love and that is all you have to give. No human or government system, no matter how much we try, can alleviate the fear in another because all there is, is an imperfect love.

Human love is imperfect because it lacks the power to be selfless. Every selfless love from an imperfect person or system will be taken advantage of by wicked men and trampled by selfish men. Many men can only offer you love from a selfish motive, when you trust another, you put your life at risk. Even the selfless love of another is always suspected and abused. Yet we all desire love!

Perfect love can be given by the same source from which the newborn received it- the Creator. We can all learn from him how to love. When we receive his love afresh in our hearts, we obtain rest- true rest. We must acknowledge the imperfection in our love and unless we receive the perfect love of God in our hearts, our world cannot have the change we desire.

From that which we receive from him, we are empowered to give. We can only give of that which we have received. Each of us can learn to love with a perfect love again. Accept the perfect love of God today!

“There is no fear in love: true love has no room for fear, because where fear is, there is pain; and he who is not free from fear is not complete in love.” 

1 John 4:18

“We love him, because he first loved us. In this was manifested the love of God toward us, because that God sent his only begotten Son into the world, that we might live through him. This is love: not that we have loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the atoning sacrifice for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another. “

1 John 4:19, 9-11

” … the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us. But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us. “

Romans 5:5, 8

When you receive the perfect love of God, you will have the opportunity to express this love towards others. It is not going to be an improved version of yours but a direct flow of God’s love through you. You will learn to stop struggling with loving others but rather, God’s unconditional and selfless love will flow through you. That is what the world needs. Are you ready for that?